329 🌿 Healing After Divorce: Somatic Practices & Nervous System Regulation with Laurie James

The Midlife Makeover Show | Women Over 40, Menopause Support, Divorce Recovery, Empty Nest Advice, Aging Gracefully, Finding Purpose

May 26, 2026 48 mins

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In this heartfelt episode of The Midlife Makeover Show, Wendy Valentine sits down with Laurie James — author, certified somatic practitioner, and host of the Confessions of a Freebird podcast — to talk about what it really takes to heal after divorce and major life transitions in midlife.

 

Laurie shares her remarkable personal journey through 14 years of caregiving for aging parents, raising four daughters, navigating financial betrayal in her marriage, and ultimately finding herself on the other side with a whole new sense of freedom and purpose.

 

Through the lens of somatic experiencing and nervous system regulation, Laurie offers a compassionate and practical roadmap for women who are ready to stop overriding their bodies and start truly healing from the inside out.

 

What You’ll Learn

  • What somatic experiencing is and how it helps you release trauma stored in your body
  • How to recognize the signs of a dysregulated nervous system — and what to do about it
  • Laurie’s powerful “Name, Notice, Nourish” practice for processing difficult emotions in real time
  • Why you can only heal as fast as your nervous system will allow — and why that’s actually good news
  • How to rebuild self-trust and step into healthier relationships after divorce or a major life change

 

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