Thursday Thoughts – Not Living in the Past

Take A Breath

April 23, 2026 ∙ 20 mins
Episode 28

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On this week's Thursday Thoughts, Lucy and I are talking about not living in the past.

We all spend time thinking about the past — whether it's reminiscing about a lovely memory, cringing about something we said or did 5 years ago, or thinking about a relationship we're struggling to move on from. The question we want to ask is: how much time am I actually spending in the past?

The truth is that what's done is done, and while we can learn lessons from the past, staying stuck on something that happened 3 weeks or 10 years ago probably isn't serving you. So...if you find yourself spending a little too much time ruminating over that time you made a tit of yourself at last year's Christmas party, it might be time to let that go; and instead, start thinking more about the present moment, and your exciting future.

We hope you'll find something useful in here.

Love,

Polly & Lucy x

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Take A Breath

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28

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April 23, 2026

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20 mins
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