Healing, Grief & Trusting Yourself: Carly’s Story

Take A Breath

May 12, 2026 55 mins

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In this episode of Take a Breath, I’m joined by my lovely friend Carly for a deeply honest conversation about her journey through breast cancer and everything that came with it.  

Nearly three years ago, Carly was diagnosed with breast cancer and advised to undergo a mastectomy and radiotherapy. Instead, she chose a very different path,  one that focused on radically changing her lifestyle.

And of course, it wasn’t easy.

We talk openly about the reality of what that looked like day-to-day, cutting out sugar, preparing everything from scratch, trying to reduce toxins, learning to slow down, and turning inward through meditation.

During this time, Carly also lost her mum to cancer, while continuing to navigate her own diagnosis and the fear and uncertainty that came with it. At one stage, the cancer spread, yet Carly continued to trust the path she was on and doubled down on caring for her body and mind in a completely different way.

Now, two years later, after recent scans, doctors could find no trace of cancer.

This episode is not about telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t do medically, and Carly’s experience is uniquely her own. But it is a powerful conversation about trust, intuition, resilience, lifestyle, emotional wellbeing, and the incredible connection between mind and body.

We talk about:

  • Carly’s diagnosis and the emotions that followed
  • Why she chose a different route
  • The intense lifestyle changes she made
  • Stress, grief, and the nervous system
  • Meditation and emotional healing
  • Learning to trust herself
  • What this experience taught her about life

It’s a raw, moving, hopeful conversation and one I know so many of you will take something meaningful from.

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May 12, 2026

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Take A Breath

A podcast for creating practical calm in the messy middle of midlife. This is your space to pause.  Because life in midlife is full-on. Between work, family, menopause, and the mental load, your nervous system can easily end up in constant overdrive — leaving you feeling exhausted, reactive, and overwhelmed by even the smallest things.  […]

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