You Keep Saying You’ll Do Something for You… But You Keep Choosing Everything Else First

Take A Breath

May 5, 2026 ∙ 26 mins
Episode 31

About

You know the phrases…
 “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
“Put your oxygen mask on first.”

But here’s the real question…

Are you actually doing it?

Or are you still giving your time, energy, and attention to everyone else…
 and hoping you’ll get a moment for yourself somewhere down the line?

In this episode, I’m sharing a very honest reflection, one that’s come from being forced to slow down after surgery, and what it’s helped me realise about what I thought was self-care… versus what actually supports your nervous system.

✨ In this episode, I also explore:

  •  Why knowing you should prioritise yourself isn’t the same as actually doing it 
  •  The hidden ways you might be “pushing” under the guise of self-care 
  •  What your nervous system really needs to feel calm and supported 
  •  Why one-off self-care (like holidays or occasional treats) isn’t enough 
  •  The power of small, consistent moments to reset and reconnect 
  •  A simple 3-step approach to start showing up for yourself daily

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Podcast

Take A Breath

Episode

31

Date

May 5, 2026

Length

26 mins
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Take A Breath

A podcast for creating practical calm in the messy middle of midlife. This is your space to pause.  Because life in midlife is full-on. Between work, family, menopause, and the mental load, your nervous system can easily end up in constant overdrive — leaving you feeling exhausted, reactive, and overwhelmed by even the smallest things.  […]

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