355 ✨ Giving Up the Ghost: How to Stop Playing Small and Finally Be Seen in Midlife with Samantha Rose, Emmy-Winning Writer & NYT Bestselling Ghostwriter

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September 29, 2026 ∙ 62 mins

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What would it take for you to give up YOUR ghost?


In this episode of The Midlife Makeover Show, Wendy Valentine sits down with Samantha Rose — Emmy award-winning television writer and New York Times bestselling ghostwriter of nearly twenty books — to talk about what happens when the woman behind everyone else’s stories finally tells her own.


After losing her mother to suicide in 2020, Samantha began writing to process her grief… and discovered she had been living as a ghost in her own life. That writing became Giving Up the Ghost: A Daughter’s Memoir — winner of Best Memoir at the San Francisco Book Festival — and the first book ever published under her own name. Together, Wendy and Samantha explore grief, healing, finding your voice in midlife, and why it’s never too late to stop playing small and finally be seen.


If you’ve ever felt invisible in your own life, this conversation is your permission slip.


✨ What You’ll Learn

•     Why so many women become the “ghostwriter” of their own lives — and how to stop

•     What “giving up the ghost” really means — and how to give up yours

•     How writing (or any creative outlet) helps grief move through your body

•     Why unprocessed grief waits for you — and how to finally give it a voice

•     How to step out of the shadows and be seen — even as an introvert


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