Why Birthdays Matter More Than We Realise with Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming

Take A Breath

January 20, 2026 55 mins

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Do you love your birthday… or secretly dread it?

Birthdays can bring up all sorts — joy, disappointment, reflection, pressure, even a  sense of dread as we move through midlife. And yet, it’s the one day every year that’s meant to be about you.

In this episode of Take a Breath, I’m joined by counsellor, personal development guide, and author Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming to explore why birthdays matter far more than we might realise — and how they can become a powerful opportunity for self-worth, reflection, and personal growth.

Tamar is the author of How to Have a Happy Birthday, a book born from the realisation that many people carry disappointment, unmet expectations, or old emotional patterns into their birthdays year after year. She invites us to take back ownership of our birthdays — in ways that feel meaningful, nourishing, and true to who we are now.

This conversation goes well beyond birthday parties. It’s about permission, self-celebration, aging with confidence, and creating practical calm in the messy middle of midlife.

In this episode, we explore:

  • Why birthdays can be surprisingly emotional — and what your feelings about your birthday might reveal about your self-worth
  • Why taking responsibility for your birthday (rather than hoping others “get it right”) can be deeply empowering
  • How to celebrate your birthday in ways that feel good to you — whether that’s a big gathering, a quiet solo day, or something in between
  • Letting go of societal expectations around aging, appearance, and what women “should” look like as they get older
  • Using your birthday as a personal New Year — a moment to reflect on purpose, values, and the year ahead
  • How to honour difficult emotions on birthdays — including grief and loss — without letting them take over

This episode is about learning to pause, listen to yourself, and honour what you actually want and need — not just on one day a year, but every day.

If birthdays have ever left you feeling flat, overlooked, or quietly disappointed, this conversation might just help you see them — and yourself — differently.

Take a breath… and enjoy.

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January 20, 2026

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55 mins
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