The Sex Series: Part 01 with Karen Bester

What the menopause

August 12, 2025 ∙ 20 mins
Episode 11

About

In this episode, Mandy chats to Medical Training Manager at Lamelle Research Laboratories, Karen Bester, about sex, sexuality, and the menopause years and why our Gen X upbringing shaped how we think about intimacy, and what’s really going on with our bodies and brains.

Expect:

  • Why Gen X women grew up with a conservative view of sex (Scope was “for the stories”!!)

  • The generational whiplash of parenting in the hook-up era

  • The physical changes that affect desire, arousal, lubrication, and satisfaction during menopause

  • Understanding the Female Sexual Dysfunction Index and its six domains

  • How hormonal shifts impact libido, pleasure, and relationship dynamics

  • Why talking openly about sex in menopause matters for both health and happiness

Frank talk, a healthy dose of humour, and the conversation your teenage self never got but your menopausal self really needs.

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What the menopause

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11

Date

August 12, 2025

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20 mins
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What the menopause

Your BFF for the years when you and your body go WTF!

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