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The Sex Life Nobody Warned You About: What a Top Sexual Medicine Expert Wants You To Know

unPAUSED with Dr. Mary Claire Haver

February 24, 2026 58 mins

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Most women go through decades of marriage, menopause and midlife without ever having an honest conversation with a doctor about their sex life. Not because they don't want one — but because most physicians were never trained to have it. This week on unPaused, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. James Simon, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at George Washington University, board-certified OB-GYN, reproductive endocrinologist, and certified sexual counselor with more than 800 published papers in menopause and sexual medicine. Dr. Simon is a past president of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH) and one of the most published clinicians in modern menopause care. Dr. Simon has spent his career treating what most doctors never address — the full picture of how sex, desire, pain and intimacy change for both women and men as they age. He treats couples together, and what he has witnessed across thousands of relationships is that the problems are rarely one person's fault, rarely unsolvable, and almost always rooted in something nobody warned them about. Guest links: James Simon (IntimMedicine Specialists) James Simon (Instagram) James Simon (YouTube) Articles: What if the Women’s Health Initiative had used transdermal estradiol and oral progesterone instead? (Menopause) Erectile Dysfunction (StatPearls) Should we be prescribing testosterone to perimenopausal and menopausal women? A guide to prescribing testosterone for women in primary care (British Journal of General Practice) The Benefits and Harms of Systemic Testosterone Therapy in Postmenopausal Women With Normal Adrenal Function: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis (The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism) Other Resources: Women’s Health Initiative The North American Menopause Society Releases Its 2022 Hormone Therapy Position Statement (NAMS) International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISWSH)  FDA panel rejects testosterone patch for women on safety grounds (The BMJ) The Saga of Testosterone for Menopausal Women at the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) (The Journal of Sexual Medicine) Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA) Books:“Restore Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Reviving her Sexual Desire and Passion for Life,” by James Simon and Victoria Houston To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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February 24, 2026

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image of woman with dark hair named Mary Claire Haver
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