Step Three to a Regulated Nervious System: Building your Capacity

Take A Breath

March 24, 2026 ∙ 36 mins
Episode 23

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In this episode, I’m taking you into the third step of regulating your nervous system — and this is where things really begin to shift.

We’ve already explored awareness and regulation, but if you’ve ever felt like you’re still getting pulled into stress again and again… this is the missing piece. Today, I’m talking about capacity (how much your nervous system can actually hold) and why midlife can feel like things suddenly become “too much”, even when nothing obvious has changed.

I’ll walk you through how to gently expand your window of tolerance, so you’re not constantly overwhelmed by life’s demands. This isn’t about avoiding stress — it’s about building the ability to move through it with more steadiness, more clarity, and far less reactivity. 

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  •  Why stress isn’t always the problem, and how a “full” nervous system changes the way you respond to everyday life 
  •  How your window of tolerance works (and why it can feel smaller in midlife) 
  •  The concept of building capacity through small, manageable stretches, not pushing or forcing 
  •  How your breath becomes a powerful tool for both calming your system and building resilience 
  •  What real nervous system regulation actually looks like in daily life, and how to feel more steady, even when life is full

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Take A Breath

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23

Date

March 24, 2026

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36 mins
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