Matt and Sarah Davies authors of You, Me and the Space Between Us

The Merry Menopause Bookclub

April 5, 2023 40 mins

About

My guests for this episode are the authors of You Me and The Space Between Us, married couple Matt and Sarah Davies .

Matt is a marriage counsellor and psychosexual and relationship therapist, and Sarah is a movement and somatic coach.  

Combing both their areas of expertise, You, Me and The Space Between Us is a blend of personal narrative and expert advice, written with empathy and warmth. It is a book for anyone who is struggling with their relationship. I LOVED IT and would highly recommend whatever your relationship status, I guarantee you will learn something to make your relationships better. 

Join us as we discuss:

  • What is 'the space between us' and how working with it can improve our relationships
  • How the space between us, is about the ‘us’ not the ‘you or me’
  • Why relationships are difficult
  • Vulnerability in relationships
  • When to ask ‘what does the relationship need” rather than what do I need?
  • How we can lose sight of ‘we’
  • How to stop an argument - play the game of ’switching sides’
  • How to avoid your relationship becoming boring and sexless
  • Why people have affairs and the role of the patriarchy
  • How to sustain a relationship after the honeymoon period
  • How it’s possible to have both freedom and longevity in a relationship
  • Simplifying attachment styles - The Octopus and The Turtle
  • Why good conflict is vital for a long-lasting relationship
  • Stop looking for perfection - embrace the 80/20 rule 
  • Desire and sex in midlife
  • Are you a couple who has sex or a sexy couple?

Matt and Sarah’s book choice - Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

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April 5, 2023

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40 mins
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The Merry Menopause Bookclub

Welcome to The Merry Menopause Bookclub podcast, I’m your host, Jo Fuller ACTP Accredited Coach specialising in Menopause. I created this podcast to explore the many facets of Menopause through literature and conversation.Each episode, I’ll be discussing a book that resonates with our midlife experience, delving into the physical, emotional and social aspects of this […]

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