“Killer Whales Go Through It” with Darcey Steinke

Hello Menopause!

December 27, 2022 35 mins

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Meet Darcey Steinke, American author and educator. Her most recent book is Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life. In it, Darcey writes frankly about her own experience with menopause and weaves together her personal story with philosophy, science, art, and literature.  In this episode, Darcey shares what humans can learn from killer whales when it comes to aging, menopause, and leadership. Plus, she gets into how coping with sleep loss and hot flashes allowed her to access a deeper understanding of herself through journaling, solitude, and introspection.  Join Robin, Christine, and Darcey’s conversation on what Darcey calls “graduate school for the body,” how she draws on wisdom from trans friends to celebrate hormonal changes and transitions, and how our aging bodies can teach us empathy. Learn more about the nonprofit Let’s Talk Menopause: www.letstalkmenopause.org. Download a symptoms checklist here (lista de síntomas aquí). Check out Robin’s Comedy & Funny True Stories at www.robingelfenbien.com Follow Robin on Social: Instagram, TikTok, Twitter & Facebook Thank you to Always Discreet for sponsoring this episode of Hello Menopause. Always Discreet because we deserve better.

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December 27, 2022

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35 mins
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Hello Menopause!

Menopause. It’s big, it’s life-changing and it’s… hardly talked about. Well, we’re gonna do just that. Talk about it! Each season, host Stacy London is joined by women who are leading the charge on understanding and managing the most mysterious non-mystery on Earth – menopause. Stacy welcomes guests like Dr. Mary Claire Haver, Carla Hall, […]

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