How to Know if Your Nervous System’s Actually Regulated — or Just Coping

Take A Breath

February 10, 2026 ∙ 31 mins
Episode 11

About

There’s a lot of noise right now about calming your nervous system and staying regulated — and for many of us, that creates more pressure than peace.

In this solo episode, I gently unpack what nervous system regulation actually means, why staying calm isn’t the goal, and how midlife and perimenopause can shift the way your system responds to stress.

I also introduce a simple metaphor to help you understand what’s really going on inside your body — and why so many of us feel stuck, reactive, or exhausted without knowing why.

This episode is an invitation to pause, notice, and begin to understand what your nervous system has been trying to tell you.

In this episode, we explore:

  • How to recognise the signs of coping vs. true regulation
  • Why stress isn’t the enemy
  • How your nervous system responds to everyday life
  • A powerful metaphor to help you notice what state you’re in
  • What starts to shift when you can name it, instead of judge it

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Podcast

Take A Breath

Episode

11

Date

February 10, 2026

Length

31 mins
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Take A Breath

A podcast for creating practical calm in the messy middle of midlife. This is your space to pause.  Because life in midlife is full-on. Between work, family, menopause, and the mental load, your nervous system can easily end up in constant overdrive — leaving you feeling exhausted, reactive, and overwhelmed by even the smallest things.  […]

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