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In this deeply transformative episode, Dr. Fiona Lovely welcomes Jeffrey Tambor, a seasoned healer and co-founder of The Thriving Institute™, who has dedicated over two decades to understanding and resolving trauma at its deepest roots. Alongside his partner, Dr. Valerie Rein—who pioneered the concept of Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD)—Jeffrey brings a unique perspective on how inherited stress and conditioning live in women's bodies, often without their conscious awareness.
Jeffrey shares his personal journey from a debilitating depression in his youth to becoming a guide for women navigating the often turbulent waters of perimenopause and menopause. Together, they explore the concept of PSD - Patriarchy Stress Disorder, explaining how trauma from this life and from generations past—both the big "T" and little "t" varieties—gets passed down epigenetically and manifests as that nagging feeling of never being enough. He discusses why traditional talk therapy and mindset work often fall short when addressing these inherited patterns and offers hope that healing can be faster and more accessible than most women realize. Jeffrey reframes perimenopause not as a crisis to be managed, but as a powerful invitation to shed old identities, reclaim sovereignty, and step into a life of full aliveness. The conversation also touches on how men can show up as conscious allies, the liberating power of rage, and why the world desperately needs awakened grandmothers leading the way.
Episode Highlights:
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What Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is and how it differs from personal trauma.
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Why the feeling of "never being enough" often has nothing to do with you personally.
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How perimenopause serves as an invitation to shed old conditioning and step into authentic power.
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The difference between processing trauma personally versus addressing inherited ancestral patterns.
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How to begin moving from survival mode into a state of true thriving and embodiment.
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