Season of Orisii: Michelle Graham Freeman & Sterling Freeman

Black Girl's Guide to Surviving Menopause

May 23, 2024 57 mins

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Welcome to our 6th iteration of the ⁠Black Girl's Guide to Surviving Menopause⁠ podcast: the Season of Orisii. Building on our international diasporic tour from last year, this season's theme is Orisii, or 'pairs' in the Afric language of Yoruba. We've invited different types of pairs to explore the through-line between menarche and menopause. You will hear parent/child, partner/lovers, and siblings offer their reflections and observations about this journey as individuals and as Orisii. We, as people capable of menstruation, understand that each experience is unique and impacts both ourselves and the connections we have with our loved ones.


For this second episode of our Season of Orisii, we have couple, Michelle Graham-Freeman and Sterling E. Freeman.


MICHELLE GRAHAM-FREEMAN has taught Spanish at Durham Academy for 30 years. The first 17 years were in middle school with grades 6-8. The remaining years have been in pre and lower schools with grades preK-1. This 31st year is her last as she and her daughter, Joia, become franchisees of Season 2 Consign--RDU. Season 2 is dedicated to providing the highest quality, pre-owned designer brand and luxury handbags to clients around the world.


STERLING E. FREEMAN, is a co-facilitator of UnLearning Sexism Accountability Circles, and co-host of a podcast in process, Beyond Being A Good One podcast. Sterling is a Co-Founder and Principal with CounterPart Consulting, Co-Founder of BREATHE: A Whole Black Experience, and the creator and host of The Wisdom & The Work podcast. All his efforts contribute to the work of dismantling oppressive systems, and imagining and building spaces that enable liberation and thriving for all. At this point in his journey, he is an aspiring womanist. Sterling lives in Durham, NC with his wife, Michelle. They have an adult daughter, Joia.


Show Notes:

Produced by Mariah M., Creative Director at BGG2SM

Hosted by Omisade Burney-Scott, Founder & Chief Curatorial Officer at BGG2SM

Edited by Kim Blocker of TDS Radio

Theme music by Taj Cullen Scott

Season 6 Artwork by Assata Goff, artist & in-house Iconographer of BGG2SM

Season 6 of the podcast is sponsored by The Honey Pot Company

Learn more about Black Girl's Guide to Surviving Menopause at www.blackgirlsguidetosurvivingmenopause.com

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Episode

39

Date

May 23, 2024

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57 mins
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Black Girl's Guide to Surviving Menopause

Black women are negotiating the different stages of menopause along with their ever evolving identifies, relationships, careers, responsibilities and societal tropes. This is a curated intergenerational exchange, a space for exploration, mentorship, intimacy and vulnerability around life, identity and change. It’s the excavation of the things that you need to know, but were never told. […]

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