#132 Midlife Hormones, Love, Sex & Relationships with Dr John Gray

Women on Fire®

September 11, 2024 78 mins

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He’s back by popular demand! Dr John Gray of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus fame.


Touted as one of the top 10 most influential books of the past 25 years, John’s also one of the most influential relationship counsellors of our time. His latest book, Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World, continues his legacy. Check out his website MarsVenus.com.


John's always a captivating guest; in this episode, he winds through various biohacks for relationships.


Tip: Listen more than once as you always pick up something new. He generally speaks to heterosexual people but some hormonal/nutritional aspects may be helpful for same-sex couples too.



In this episode, we talk about:

01:04 Intro

02:26 The biological difference men & women

04:00 Women and stress

06:07 Libido, attraction and peri and post-menopause

09:50 Relationship skills in a complex world

14:12 Biohack 1: protein and elevated cortisol (stress)

15:54 The committed relationship effect

18:18 Traditional gender roles; masculine and feminine

27:58 Biohack 2: estrogen and relationships in menopause

(for singles and couples)

30:00 What turns a man on?

33:55 Biohack 3: an exercise to raise estrogen and connect to a man

39:38 Singles: how to get a man in your life

52:09 Getting back on the relationship horse after a loss or a breakup

1:05:55 If you're dating in midlife


Episode Resources:

Episode #107 with John here

Website: MarsVenus.com

Follow John on Instagram here

Follow John on Facebook here

Free Relationship Course: https://www.marsvenus.com/gift

John's book: Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills For Our Complex Modern World

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September 11, 2024

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78 mins
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